From messages posted over the past five years to the Yahoo group Adopting-from-Disruption, where parents of adopted children offered them for “re-homing,” also known as adoption disruption. The group was shut down by Yahoo last September, after a Reuters investigation into the practice.

Since our daughter could talk, at age two, she has told us that she wishes she was in a Chinese family. She’s Chinese, we’re all American. I had wanted to go back for another daughter from China, but this one is so hard to love that I can tell you with absolute certainty I will never do…